Wednesday, April 18, 2012

How the Immature Deal with Death

Hi everyone!

Wow, what a sucky couple of weeks this has been...

Anyhoo, want to know how an adult with the mentality of a 10 year old deals with death? Escapism! Well, of a sort anyway. Since Toot and Zippy won't take me up on my offer of taking my car and going to the zoo by themselves, life is still moving forward, no matter how much I want it to stop and wallow with me.

So I've been taking what small private time I can get and play with my dolls. Yes, you read that right. And no, I'm not crazy. Well, I am crazy but it all balances out. Taking pictures of my dolls has been a solace for me recently, a way to get out of everything, at least for a little while. :)

Ty's Crazy Hairs



No, It's MY Dress

Group Shot

I could keep going but I'll stop...for now. :) You're welcome to visit my doll Dolly Flickr anytime! Toot does:

She Loves Dolls

What has helped you in times of sorrow?


  1. Maggi,
    I am glad to see a new post from you. I've been wondering how you were. I know it's hard but time will help ease your pain..I am so very sorry for your loss and I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

    Big Hugs,

  2. Whatever works Maggie! I think this is very healthy and fascinating as well. Hugs to you and you family I am thinking of you.

  3. There's no shame in finding peace wherever and whenever you can; be it with dolls, cooking, spending time with family, spending time completely ALONE, crying, laughing, whatever.

    You do what feels natural to you, whatever eases the pain and helps you cope.

    My thoughts are with you!

  4. That's such a cute little Ty necklace, Maggi. The darling faces on those little dolls say it all don't they?
    As does the darling face on your little girl.


  5. I agree, whatever works. For me sometimes it's scrapbooking, if I can "go there", if I have the energy. Other times, it's being with the right people - people that knew the person. Other times still it's being alone. Go with it if it feels right- I really enjoyed your dolls photos! I can't get over how very expressive they can be and Toot is looking as cute as ever!
    Banana girl

  6. You should do what you need to do, maggi. That is for sure. If taking photos of your dolls is doing it for you, then do it! This is the time to really listen to what you might need. In times of sorrow, that's what I do. I try to do what I have to do and then pamper myself with whatever I need. Maybe a bath, a rest on the couch with a magazine, pet my dogs, take them for walk . . . and then I usually try to make myself do something creative as that always makes me feel better. Sending love to you. Remember to give yourself time and space and don't forget to go look at those dolls again! I would think they might make you feel better eh? xoxox lenna

  7. Lots and lots of ice cream.. that explains my thighs :)

    Loveeeeeee the photos!!

  8. Wow! You have a lot of dolls. They are so pretty!

    P/s: Escapism is totally understandable. You do what you need to do. I don't deal well with death. The man I love the most in my life, my grandfather, passed away 11 years ago and I'm still in mourning. I can't talk about him or think about him without tearing..[tearing now]. I found some peace scrapbooking photos of him though. Maybe you could too?

    Take care Maggi. Thinking of you...

  9. Definitely escapism helps. You are crazy but in the best possible way :)

    Love you lots x

  10. I haven't found anything yet that helps me to escape the death of my dad a few months a go! But I totally agree that escapism is a good plan, and your dolls are beautiful, as is Toot :-) Thinking of you loads!!

  11. Still thinking of you and your family. Your dolls are adorable and so is Toot in that picture! Hugs to you.

  12. I've been thinking about you and am so glad you've found a way to cope. I usually deal with grief by eating. I think playing with dolls is probably a much healthier form of escapism than consuming copious amounts of sugar. Hang in there. Thinking of you guys!

  13. I try to remember the happier times, but it still SUCKS!!!! Hang in there!!!

  14. Maggie, I'm so sorry for your loss. Things will never be the same and part of him will always linger around but you will learn to live with this. You are a strong woman and remember he is in a better place. Stay strong for your family and know that our prayers are with you.

    Your dolls are lovely btw... XD

  15. Dearest Maggi - I just now read about your loss. I'm so sorry and am sending you all my love!

  16. love your dolls...if they help you, good!

  17. I am a lurker on your site. What a horrible term. I just lost my husband two months ago. I am so sorry about your brother. Escapism is a good things sometimes. Crafting is very helpful as is playing with dolls and children. Go for it!

  18. we all deal with loss in our own way and i don't think theres a right or wrong way, just what your gut tells you sometimes. i think just doing something is a great outlet for your pain.

    18 years ago my beloved grammie died and we celebrate her life every year on her birthday. this time of year is sometimes difficult for me even now but i also feel closer to her so that makes me happy....i know she's looking down and i hope i make her proud ;)